What do you think when you think of massage?
Slow music, gentle hands, comfort, and relaxation? Sounds good and feels good, but…imagine if you are the one doing the massage, touching the silky skin and erotic curves of a woman’s body.
Sexy, isn’t it?
We could go really deep into this and read about 80 massage therapy styles along with a wide variety of pressures, movements, and techniques.But we are not going to. You are not a massage professional, and what really matters here is perfecting a gesture that it can be used as a powerful foreplay.
I’m going to show you how to give a sensual massage that will connect you to her body and let you explore it. Even if you only give her a 10-minute rubdown, you will be rewarded with a relaxed and happy woman in your arms (or in your bed).
HOW TO GIVE A SENSUAL MASSAGE: THE ESSENTIAL INGREDIENTS
Before you can learn how to give a sensual massage, you have to learn the ingredients. Learning, and putting them together in the right way, will have a big effect on her pleasure and getting the outcome you want.
1) SETTING THE MOOD
Setting the mood is one of the most important steps in a sensual massage. The massage is meant to be sensual! You need her to feel as comfortable as possible.
First, dim the lights and light a few candles. This provides a nice romantic ambiance. Next, prepare your place for a massage. Find a good firm surface for her to lie down (your bed, a beach towel, on the floor or even on a table. (This is assuming you don’t have a professional massage table.) If you are giving her a simple hand or scalp massage, a chair will do just fine.
Music is a vital part of setting the right mood. Please, no AC/DC, Metallica or Marilyn Manson. Ambient sounds or something like “Liquid Mind” will do just fine.
Make sure you know what your goal is; either to make her relaxed & ready for sex or to put her to sleep. If a romantic massage is an appetizer before the main course, then choose something sexy like soul music or if it is for relaxation then go for soft and slow blues, or even nature sounds such as running water or the sounds of the rainforest.
3) THE OIL
Oil is your main ingredient. Its as important as a mechanics wrench.
The list of appropriate oils you can use is long. Hemp, Jojoba, Hazelnut, Apricot Kernel, Argan, Avocado, Safflower, Rosehip Seed, Walnut, Camelia, Coconut, Macadamia Nut, Marula, Almond, Moringa, Grapeseed, Sunflower, Sesame, Mustard, Borage oil or mixed oils are all good choices. Experiment with a few and find what you like.
You can find all these and more at the health food store. Also, spa shops and skin care stores have a big variety of blended massage oils containing two or more oils. These can be very appealing. Or just purchase some online from the link here.
Almond oil is one of the most popular and my personal favorite as a woman. It is slightly oily, but allows your hands to slide smoothly. Plus, it doesn’t get absorbed too easily so you won’t need to keep reapplying it.
**Make sure to buy organic oil in small quantities and store them in a cool area.
SENSUAL MASSAGE TECHNIQUES
Now that you have all the ingredients to a great sensual massage its time to learn the various techniques.
The part of the body you are going to play with and the length of the play depend on your relationship with the woman. If it is a date number ten – give her a present of a full body massage. Nothing says romance like the gift of relaxation.
If it’s a one-night stand and you are feeling a bit shy in the beginning – massage her hand to relax and enjoy the beginning of skin-to-skin contact.
Let the foreplay begin!
Here’s a few sensual massage techniques that will make you seem like a master of the craft. (you can practice them on your body, for example, on your thigh).
Shiatsu is the main massage technique used in Japan and it is pretty easy to learn. If you have ever gotten a nice back massage and felt someone rubbing out your knots with their thumbs then you have had the shiatsu style treatment.
Just lay your hands or fingers on a certain spot while applying some pressure and rotate slowly. Try to find some knots in her upper back and loosen them up, but not too hard to the point that she is in pain.
Compression is another common technique used in massage. Basically, you just press down on one area, increasing blood flow and loosening the muscle. This is a good move to do before partaking in a deeper massage such as shiatsu, just to warm things up and get the blood flowing. This is also great on the buttocks, where you can place one hand on top of the other and rotate slowly.
The stroking technique is essentially long gentle movements with your hands along a portion of her body.
Keep your fingers together, thumbs parallel and palms in full contact with the body part you are massaging. This is extremely pleasing on all areas of the body. It’ll make her toes curl with pleasure.
Friction is an advanced technique but is perfect for using on her hands and feet.
The friction technique rarely requires the use of oils, which is why you build up so much friction between your hand and her body. It is a focused stroke, which is used in some really small area with a certain amount of stability and pressure. Honestly, its better leave this move for professionals. But if you do it – be gentle.
The kneading massage is great for getting deep into muscles and is perfect for her buttocks or any other fleshy areas. If you are doing it very gently you can do it anywhere. But don’t do it on her belly, especially if hers is not that flat. She can feel uncomfortable and fat.
Kneading is similar to the way a baker kneads bread. Have you ever made bread in before? Its really very simple. The way you do the kneading massage is by grasping and lifting the tissue (not too high!). First, the palms press down on muscle tissue, then you push your fingers together and then you move upward in a lifting motion.
Few tips for sex massage:
1. Use a good oil, so your hands don’t drag and chafe the skin. I’d suggest starting with sweet almond oil or jojoba oil. Don’t skimp on quality. (A little lavender essential oil is safe for everyone can be a very relaxing addition to your oil. But don’t play around with essential oils unless you know what you’re doing, because many of them can burn or cause other problems.) You should use enough oil so that your hands glide across the skin without dragging, but not so much that they slide or slip. Start with a very small amount; you can always add more.
2. Don’t pinch, and don’t press too hard. Most people like a firm touch, especially if they’re ticklish, but the biggest mistake beginners make is in using too much pressure. It takes considerable practice to be able to “read” the tissue under your hands. A light, firm touch never feels bad, but causing pain can ruin a message.
3. The larger the area you are touching, the deeper your pressure can be. If you are pressing with the flat of your hand, you can use a lot of pressure, but if you’re pressing with your thumb or fingers, go easy.
4. Slow down. This is the second biggest mistake beginners make. Try to make your strokes long and slow. It is not a race. Focus on moving as slow as you possibly can, with your hands gliding so slowly that you can barely tell they’re moving.
5. Repeat each stroke at least three times. Don’t move all over the place. Follow a natural progression from one area to the next. Always maintain contact with the person you’re massaging. Everything should flow.
6. Ask for specific feedback. Don’t ask, “Is that ok?” or “How does that feel?” Instead, ask, “Would you prefer more or less pressure?” “Are there any areas which are sorer than others?”
7. Relax. Breathe slowly. Keep your shoulders, back, forearms, and hands lose. If you are tense, it will be conveyed in your message.
Good luck. Massage can be such a rewarding experience. It can really help you to learn and appreciate your partner’s body and is a great way of communicating your care without words.